I’ve decided to write on a topic that has been on my mind for quite some time. I’ve wanted to write about it for a while but held back because I wasn’t sure how I would be portrayed. But then I thought to myself, but what if my manic thoughts can help someone else? My whole mission for my blog is the hope of helping someone in any way possible, so why should I hold back? We are all judged one way or another in life so what do I have to lose?
Everything in our world is so fast-paced and that’s no secret. So many distractions and such a sense of urgency for just about anything. We have “alerts” on our smart devices telling us what we need to check or do right away. Email from work? Well, now I know about it so I better respond that way I don’t have to later. We all know how that can evolve into an hour long process because then you already have your email open, so why not go ahead and get it all taken care of? This, in of itself can be a vicious cycle. And if you have more than one email account on your phone? Ha! Well, forget about it. Next thing you know you’re spending hours on your phone and opening other apps and checking other alerts on your phone. And all because you started out checking on one alert. Ugh! I’m exhausted just talking about it because I do that to myself and my family all the time. Shame on me but it’s a reality that I face.
Now, I’m taking time and energy to be more self-aware trying not to pick up my phone after every single alert that pops up on my phone. I’ve been learning to not “allow” all of my apps to send me alerts and making sure that I turn off my alerts on my email accounts so that I dedicate times throughout the day where I check it. But what happens? I get in the mindset of, I should check my email because what if I missed something important? Then the whole entire cycle starts over and I’m an hour into being on my phone yet again. Oh! What are my friends doing on Facebook and look at this awesome outfit on Pinterest! I need to recreate that look. Then because of the algorithms I’m being shown other images of pins I might love. There goes another hour! Ugh. Now I’m beating myself up and stressing myself out for not being more present when I should be.
My family time is way more important to me than this stuff. Time to start over and work on myself again. Needless to say, I hope I’m not alone on this and maybe I sound like a horrible wife and mother because of it. But hey, I’m aware of it and trying to make a change. The first step is admitting that I have a problem, right? The world we’re living in now is allowing so many addictions to arise; depression and stress can lead to substance abuse because people struggle to wind down. Then we see all of the “beautiful people and places” on social media that can start to make us feel down and compare ourselves to these people or want to visit these places that we can’t necessarily afford. We’re allowing the creation of a false-perception of what happiness looks like. We don’t know what their life is really like and the places we live are just as beautiful as any other place, we just see it every day. People can “filter” away what they don’t want the world to see.
Now don’t get me wrong, these are clearly things that cross my mind at times. So, if you can’t relate to anything I’m sharing then kudos to you! Seriously, I aspire to have the mindset like you. I believe I’ll get to that level one day very soon. But for now, I’m just going to sound like a melodramatic head-case sharing this outlook (lol)! Let me also state that I don’t feel this way on a daily basis and it’s not consuming my life as heavily as I am portraying it, BUT these are feelings and things I have faced at times.
Whenever I am stressed with life; work, family, trying to reach goals, etc. this is when those feelings and actions can creep in. Then I start searching inspirational quotes to help lift me up. Oh! And remember that algorithm that helps remember what type of quotes I pin? That is quite helpful when this mindset rears it’s ugly face in my room I call a brain. I will admit, reading these quotes do actually help me. It’s a simple way to take the time to fill your mind with positivity. I also use the app, Shine which I am obsessed with and even share my “text of the day” with them if it makes sense to. Now, this is the type of alert I welcome because it’s feeding my soul and helping me concentrate on joy and presence with the content it shares with me. I set it tone sent to me for Monday thru Friday at 8:00 a.m.
I know what you might be thinking. Well aren’t you contributing to this superficial aspect of the world that you’re complaining about by sharing your love of fashion? I mean, does fashion really matter? My answer is that I am trying to build women’s confidence and share ways to help them realize that the fashions they see in magazines or online can be easily obtainable. You don’t have to spend thousands of dollars to look a certain way. I also try to urge my readers to not put themselves in a bubble like I, myself can do at times. Women are powerful human beings that are meant to feel beautiful and strong. Everyone has their own definition of what makes them feel that way. So what do you consider to be your own personal power? And how do you let the stress of the world roll off your back?
Your Faithful Dreamer,