Some of you know that I have my bachelor’s degree in psychology and a master’s degree in fashion. Others might be finding this out for the first time. Either way, MOST of you are probably thinking, “Courtney, how in the world did that happen? They don’t make sense together!” Let me explain in hopes that you can see the correlation from my POV.
You see, I grew up in a home that went through a divorce. It’s important for me to say “a home” because it’s not just the parents that go through the divorce, but also the rest of the family. Divorce affects kids in so many ways. It’s probably very rare that a kid comes out clean from an event like this. We hear the word trauma more than we ever have before. When I first hear the word trauma I think of something extremely severe or even deadly. However, simply put it means an emotional shock following a stressful event. When you look at it like that, we have all experienced some sort of trauma in our lives. We are emotional beings and are affected by our life’s circumstances. It’s literally impossible to go through life and not experience emotional shock. Think about it. I bet you can recall at least one scenario that impacted you somehow that is technically a traumatic experience. I can personally attribute the divorce to where I started discovering my love of fashion and later my interest in psychology.
I was always influenced by my two older sisters when it came to fashion but once I hit junior high, fashion is what kept me grounded. Now when I say this I mean in a creative sense. I always loved art and used that to escape. It served as a therapeutic approach to what was going on at home. Once I entered 7th grade I lost the passion of actually drawing and enjoyed expressing my love of art outwardly through my wardrobe. Being the shy kid that I was, this was the perfect way to show a more outgoing side. Fashion made me feel fearless and help find my identity amongst the cliqueness that happens during those formidable years. It’s always been a consistent passion and a healthy escape from reality in my opinion. Some resort to drugs and alcohol to escape. Me? I’ve always turned to clothing as a way to distract myself from any inner turmoil. Now I use the term “distracted” loosely because I truly believe in the power of therapy and dealing with your struggles, not burying them below the surface.
Come senior year of high school I was given the opportunity to take a college course, Psychology 101. It was probably the one class that always had my attention. It helped me understand the importance of self-reflection and how circumstances can affect the way you think or feel towards things. I had epiphany after epiphany of how the event of divorce affected me personally and how it shaped who I was; why I had different perspectives and why my perception of things were somehow just different than others in my life. It made me assess my upbringing and start to understand the dynamic of each person in my family. It truly felt like I was going through my own kind of therapy. That’s when I knew I was destined to major in psychology. I’ve always had a passion for people and the way their lives have impacted who they are. In fact, empathy has always been my #1 strength in any test or quiz I have EVER taken socially and professionally.
Okay, so you’ve heard where my two passions stemmed from. Both were actually through my first memorable emotional trauma. So to both of my parents, I don’t want you to view this post as a negative reflection, rather how it threw me towards my calling (I’m also really good at turning a perceived negative experience into something positive, can you tell?). So how did these two passions collide? Well, the short answer is that I loved how fashion made me FEEL! I felt confident with it and that is something I lack in life at times. I work on it constantly but in this society it can be a challenge. Now, enter psychology. Remember how I mentioned how I ultimately enjoyed learning the science around behavior and mind? This my friends, is the correlation of the two.
I realize the importance of how life can effect your confidence, aka the psychological effects your life can have on you. This can be anything from a loss in your life, addiction, abuse, eating or learning disorders, etc. The list goes on and on. All of these situations can cause major confidence issues. One thing I’ve learned is how important clothing can impact someone’s confidence. I know it might sound superficial or almost crazy to even throw fashion in with the topic of therapy, but I can tell you I’ve witnessed the impact it has on someone. When you work with me we can walk through any emotional trauma that has damaged your self-image and inadvertently robbed you of seeing yourself in a healthier light. Now, not every session with me has to be psychological, in fact none of them have to be. I just want you to know I am here to help you get to the bottom of what has truly played an instrumental role in your life when it comes your self-perception. Remember, I am not a licensed psychiatrist but I am a person who genuinely cares about your mental health.
Please don’t view this post as a way for me to “sell my services” to you because the purpose of this post is to open up a dialogue to let you know that someone out there DOES care about your well-being. That person is me, Courtney. So, if you ever need a listening ear when it comes to your lack of self-esteem, please message me! We can either talk about it, or I can post a blog about the topic in hopes to help other individuals such as yourself. Just know that EVERYONE has insecurities and even if they don’t show it, they still exist. We are all human and no one is perfect.
Your Faithful Dreamer,