Living in a Fast-paced World

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IMG_1239I’ve decided to write on a topic that has been on my mind for quite some time. I’ve wanted to write about it for a while but held back because I wasn’t sure how I would be portrayed. But then I thought to myself, but what if my manic thoughts can help someone else? My whole mission for my blog is the hope of helping someone in any way possible, so why should I hold back? We are all judged one way or another in life so what do I have to lose?

Everything in our world is so fast-paced and that’s no secret. So many distractions and such a sense of urgency for just about anything. We have “alerts” on our smart devices telling us what we need to check or do right away. Email from work? Well, now I know about it so I better respond that way I don’t have to later. We all know how that can evolve into an hour long process because then you already have your email open, so why not go ahead and get it all taken care of? This, in of itself can be a vicious cycle. And if you have more than one email account on your phone? Ha! Well, forget about it. Next thing you know you’re spending hours on your phone and opening other apps and checking other alerts on your phone. And all because you started out checking on one alert. Ugh! I’m exhausted just talking about it because I do that to myself and my family all the time. Shame on me but it’s a reality that I face.

Now, I’m taking time and energy to be more self-aware trying not to pick up my phone after every single alert that pops up on my phone. I’ve been learning to not “allow” all of my apps to send me alerts and making sure that I turn off my alerts on my email accounts so that I dedicate times throughout the day where I check it. But what happens? I get in the mindset of, I should check my email because what if I missed something important? Then the whole entire cycle starts over and I’m an hour into being on my phone yet again. Oh! What are my friends doing on Facebook and look at this awesome outfit on Pinterest! I need to recreate that look. Then because of the algorithms I’m being shown other images of pins I might love. There goes another hour! Ugh. Now I’m beating myself up and stressing myself out for not being more present when I should be.

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My family time is way more important to me than this stuff. Time to start over and work on myself again. Needless to say, I hope I’m not alone on this and maybe I sound like a horrible wife and mother because of it. But hey, I’m aware of it and trying to make a change. The first step is admitting that I have a problem, right? The world we’re living in now is allowing so many addictions to arise; depression and stress can lead to substance abuse because people struggle to wind down. Then we see all of the “beautiful people and places” on social media that can start to make us feel down and compare ourselves to these people or want to visit these places that we can’t necessarily afford. We’re allowing the creation of a false-perception of what happiness looks like. We don’t know what their life is really like and the places we live are just as beautiful as any other place, we just see it every day. People can “filter” away what they don’t want the world to see.

Now don’t get me wrong, these are clearly things that cross my mind at times. So, if you can’t relate to anything I’m sharing then kudos to you! Seriously, I aspire to have the mindset like you. I believe I’ll get to that level one day very soon. But for now, I’m just going to sound like a melodramatic head-case sharing this outlook (lol)! Let me also state that I don’t feel this way on a daily basis and it’s not consuming my life as heavily as I am portraying it, BUT these are feelings and things I have faced at times.

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Whenever I am stressed with life; work, family, trying to reach goals, etc. this is when those feelings and actions can creep in. Then I start searching inspirational quotes to help lift me up. Oh! And remember that algorithm that helps remember what type of quotes I pin? That is quite helpful when this mindset rears it’s ugly face in my room I call a brain. I will admit, reading these quotes do actually help me. It’s a simple way to take the time to fill your mind with positivity. I also use the app, Shine which I am obsessed with and even share my “text of the day” with them if it makes sense to.  Now, this is the type of alert I welcome because it’s feeding my soul and helping me concentrate on joy and presence with the content it shares with me. I set it tone sent to me for Monday thru Friday at 8:00 a.m.

I know what you might be thinking. Well aren’t you contributing to this superficial aspect of the world that you’re complaining about by sharing your love of fashion? I mean, does fashion really matter? My answer is that I am trying to build women’s confidence and share ways to help them realize that the fashions they see in magazines or online can be easily obtainable. You don’t have to spend thousands of dollars to look a certain way. I also try to urge my readers to not put themselves in a bubble like I, myself can do at times. Women are powerful human beings that are meant to feel beautiful and strong. Everyone has their own definition of what makes them feel that way. So what do you consider to be your own personal power? And how do you let the stress of the world roll off your back?

Your Faithful Dreamer,

Courtney

My Night as a Sparkly Lady

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POP, FIZZ, CLINK!  Those were some of the sounds you heard during this year’s Sparkly Ladies Night.  As I mentioned in a previous post, I’m going to become part of the Hot Tomato Pin-up Academy glam squad.  I’m over the moon excited about this and with the new year it can only keep going up from here!  I have a few other things in the works and can’t wait to share the dates when the time is right.

If you’ve been following me on my journey, you probably read my post about “Capturing the Dreamer.”  I mentioned my “initiation” in becoming a Hot Tomato.  The Sparkly Ladies Night was my time to really help a dream come to fruition.  As you know I am a “faithful dreamer,” so assisting someone else in making their dream come true, well that is just a fantastic feeling.  For the first year of the takeover it really came together and we had a wonderful response.  The years to come will get even bigger and better.

Every doll-face was having a grand time in our re-creation of a 1920’s speakeasy.  All of the ladies looked fabulous and I was impressed with how everyone went all out for their looks! One of the best things about this party was that everyone was from different backgrounds and age groups, yet all having a lovely time with another.  You saw women dancing on the bar and even getting their mugshots taken (I mean it WAS during prohibition and we felt like being naughty).   Who doesn’t love a good theme party?

Below are the sultry ladies and masterminds of the Hot Tomato Pin-up Academy that I’ll be working alongside. Love them already!  If you’ve EVER thought about taking pin-up style or boudoir photos, these ladies are the ones to bring your vision to help bring to life and make you feel beautiful, sexy, cute, etc.  And since you’re following my blog right now, you know how I adore fashion and pride myself on making women feel confident. I’ll be there to help style and put you at ease as well.  You can message me or the Hot Tomato gals too. Visit their website to view their portfolio and contact information at www.hottomatopinupacademy.com

Below you’ll see a glimpse of some of the decor that we used to help transform The River Town Grill on Second Street in downtown Marietta, Ohio.  It was the ideal space for us to use for the 20’s.  All of the brick along with the dim lighting contributed perfectly for the aesthetic we were going for. The staff and team were truly amazing and we really want to give them a huge thank you!  ESPECIALLY for having to deal with all of the glitter.

If you’ve heard of this party and have been curious to check it out next year, I’ve got a treat for you! Below is a sneak peek of all the fun the ladies had this year.  If you would like to find your mugshot below to put on your facebook click here.

And CLEARLY I had a blast!  Rockin’ out like always 🙂 ❤

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Your Faithful Dreamer,

Courtney

Capturing the Dreamer

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I’m in my third month of blogging and I can’t believe how many little blessings have occurred.  I’ve made a few leaps of faith and have put myself out there and formed new friendships!

If you live in the Mid-Ohio Valley you’ve probably already heard of the Hot Tomato Pin-up Academy.  If not, now you have and you should look them up!  I’ve had the pleasure of befriending these lovely and kind ladies all through the power of social media and networking.  It’s funny how a simple “friend request” isn’t always taken so literal.  If you really think about it, how many people have you either sent a request to or accepted a request without really wanting to be their real life”friend?”  I used to view it that way until I kept thinking of how powerful and positive facebook could be.  Imagine using facebook for positivity and forming real life friendships rather than venting about negative things and stalking “strangers” profiles! 🙂 Get to know some of your facebook friends by sending a positive note or liking more of their pictures just to simply show that you are enjoying their “friendship.”  I met Andi, Jesse, Jocelyn and Jessica all through facebook.  I had actually met Jocelyn in person on numerous occasions before anyone else and always knew their was something special about her.  Little did I know she was going to be a shining light into this new journey of mine.

Social media and networking are such powerful tools and led me to these new group of empowering women and a group I’ve craved and sought out to have in my life.  The Hot Tomato gals invited me to collaborate with them during a special event they were heading up this past month called Sparkly Ladies Night.  They entrusted me with something very important to them and I can’t begin to describe how incredible that feeling was, and a little stressful but in such a great way! I mean a girl wants to make a good impression, right?  I viewed that as my initiation ha, ha!  I believe this relationship is the beginning of something beautiful.

Ran.dom.o.si.ty 7.4.0 is going to do something exciting this coming new year!  I will be collaborating and assisting Hot Tomato with photo shoots, guest blogging and conducting fashion workshops in their space.  During these fashion workshops women will learn to become stylish while discovering a new version of themselves; self-love and positivity.  Once the workshops have been lined up, I will post the dates and times on the website and will also be creating events on my facebook page.  So, if you haven’t “liked” my facebook page or Hot Tomato’s please make sure you do now.  I’d love for you to be a part of this journey.   Also, if you haven’t subscribed to my website yet, please do so.

Now that I’m going to be a part of the Hot Tomato crew it was only appropriate to experience what it was like to be a client first-hand.  They gave me one of the best experiences while shooting my head shots.  I didn’t know what to expect when it came to their version of head shots because I knew with their style it was bound to be something unique.  I gave them one little request; I wanted them to capture the fact that I was a dreamer. Now, I didn’t even know what that would look like exactly but they nailed it! I told them a little bit about my dreams during the “getting to know you” portion of the shoot. Check out my “head shots” below and make sure to scope out some of their other work because it is absolutely lovely!  A huge hug to all of the Hot Tomato crew ❤  I can’t wait for our collaboration!

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Your Faithful Dreamer,

Courtney

What’s Your Disasterpiece?

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One of my favorite artists is Salvador Dali.  I love surrealism because it really illustrates how one single person can view something so differently, yet make it so beautiful.  It’s all about putting a different perspective on your work of art and thinking creatively to produce something wonderful.  I also enjoy his wonderfully odd yet deep take on life.

Around two and a half years ago my little family relocated back to Marietta, Ohio. The transition wasn’t easy for us and it is still taking some work to get us truly settled.  My outlook on life was really hazy for a long time.  It wasn’t until these last couple of months that I decided that I needed to change my point of view on our hardships.  I had to change my way of thinking and get out of my mental rut.  I chose to wallow in my perceived “problems” and wondered why things weren’t “happening” for me and my family. I kept trying to talk myself into thinking things were going to get better.  I used to be such an annoyingly positive person but my negative state of mind didn’t seem to let-up and I got sucked into this dark place of negative thinking. It’s never good when you start to even annoy yourself with your “Negative Nancy” attitude.  Luckily, no one seemed to notice I felt the way that I did, but I knew I had to make a change.

After frantically looking for Pinterest quotes to help re-energize my positive side and seeking out bloggers such as Hilary Rushford, whom I absolutely adore, it FINALLY became clear.  I was focusing so much on what the world views as success. I kept thinking about how my dreams weren’t coming to fruition and started to feel like my degree wasn’t worth it.  Miraculously one day I woke up with so much clarity and I said to myself, “Self, you’re already a success! You have so much moral support for your dreams, an amazing husband that believes in you so much, a healthy and beautiful little lady, a wonderful family (in-laws included) and sensational friends and co-workers. That, my dear is S-U-C-C-E-S-S…SUCCESS!  You’ve achieved what some spend their whole lives searching for; love and support.”

I also realized that I was so caught up in my “Eeyore Syndrome” (that’s what I’m gonna call it) that the reason my dreams weren’t becoming a reality was because I wasn’t taking the necessary steps. I kept saying that I wasn’t “giving up” but I definitely wasn’t doing much of anything to keep working at it!   I started with the first step I could and that was sketching dress designs to achieve one of the levels of my dreams; being a fashion designer.  I decided to seek out a dear old friend of mine named, Allison that studied fashion design and could help turn my sketches into a reality. I also reached out to my mother whom also sews.  Another level of my dreams in the works!

Then I decided to launch this blog to share the different levels of my dream (did I mention that starting my own blog was another dream of mine and it is a now living and breathing thing)?!  I also want to make a difference in people’s lives with their confidence.  The best way I know how to help is by teaching people how to feel amazing in their clothing.  The list of dreams go on but if you continue to follow me, you’ll learn more about them and hopefully see them coming true.

 I’m sharing this story, not to boast or pat myself on the back, but to hopefully put things into perspective for some of my fellow dreamers out there. Train your mind to see things in a positive light.  Try to really think about whatever you’re viewing as a disaster or roadblock and see it as the necessary steps in completing your masterpiece in life. I call it my “disasterpiece.” Some might say this term sounds a little negative, but sometimes life can be messy and is not always rainbows and butterflies.  “Disasterpiece” it is! 🙂 What you think is a disaster and meant to break you is actually meant to turn you into the powerful being you’re destined to be! If you take anything away from this at all, remember that YOUR dreams matter and you CAN do it!  Also, the most important thing to remember is to count your blessings even when they may feel hard to see.  If you look deep enough, you’ll see how much positivity actually exists in your life.  One thing I already know about you is that if you’re reading this, you’re alive and that is a blessing right there for you to count!

What steps are you taking to achieve your dreams?  If you need advice or want a listening ear, I’d love to hear from you. Visit my “Share with Me” page and let’s chat! 

Your Faithful Dreamer,

Courtney 

What’s in a Name?

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Ran.dom.o.si.ty 7.4.0 is a blog I created to recognize the differences in cultures.  There’s a lot of ways to define one’s character.  I believe the best way to do this is through the way one dresses and their selections in music. The most important thing in Ran.dom.o.si.ty 7.4.0’s culture is to express yourself by bringing the love of fashion and music together as a partnership.

Randomosity is a term created to represent “an eclectic view on life.”  People of all races and cultures go through battles of all kinds on a daily basis and all turn to different things to escape reality. The 740 is the area code of which I reside.  I also “found myself” and my soul mate when I moved to this town back in 2005.

Ran.dom.o.si.ty 7.4.0 provides a place for me to step outside the busy world and rekindle a relationship with my inner-self.  The music I listen to helps me express who I am and makes me feel comfortable and free.  I believe that everyone has an inner creative side that is waiting to be unleashed into the world and I’d love to have a hand in that somehow.

I hope my blog does the same thing for you as it does for me.   So here I am, ready to embrace your individuality and assist you with any fashion needs you may have.  Did I mention I also have a random love for different types of music along with the fashions I wear?  It all depends on what mood I’m in when I wake up in the morning and who I decide I want to be that day!  It may sound weird but it sure is fun for me 🙂

Your Faithful Dreamer,

Courtney

Why Ran.dom.o.si.ty 7.4.0?

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Well today’s the day!  After attempting to start my own blog a few years ago, I’ve decided to give it another try; a serious and more thoughtful attempt.  I mean…I even purchased my own domain!  (ha ha).  Big time girl over here!  Woot, woot (yes, I’m raising the roof).  I hope you’ll follow me on this journey I call life and all of the different paths it takes me on; the good, the bad, the ugly.  Sometimes it’s a straight and easy path.  Other times I feel a little motion sickness from all of the twists and turns.  Heck!  Sometimes it feels like a never ending roller coaster. Seriously, who let me operate this ride?! I haven’t been trained for this!  Oh, wait…none of us truly have. It’s impossible to be fully equipped to deal with every little speed bump and pot hole in the road.

I’m starting this blog for a number of reasons, but here are my top 3:

1.) Accountability.  I have dreams and want to hold true to my goals.

2.) I want to encourage all walks of life to never give up on their dreams.

3.) I want to show everyone that rather than losing yourself in your problems, overcome them.

So here I am, inviting you to check out my biography so you can learn a little more about me.  I hope you get something out of reading them.  If YOU don’t maybe you know someone that could.  Please feel free to share anything you think would help benefit someone you know.  What makes life worth living is the hope that something I’ve said or done has helped make a difference in someone’s life.

Your Faithful Dreamer,

Courtney

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