I know, I know some of you have dirty minds and thought I meant something else when I titled this post as “How to Fake It.”  Don’t get me wrong I loved the movie, “When Harry Met Sally” and the scene was quite awkwardly hilarious when Sally proves to Harry that women can fake the big “O”.”  But I’m talking about faking something else.  Something that not all of us have and wish we did.  Some of you might actually be REALLY great at it, or are like me and can “fake it” really well.

I’m talking about confidence.  Yep, that’s right you can fake it.  I fake it all the time.  It wasn’t until my adulthood that I figured out the best technique for myself.  Before I share what it is I feel the need to ask you something.  Did you ever grow up wishing you had the confidence of someone else?  We all had those girls in high school that seemed like they had zero insecurities or maybe it was a celebrity, a sister, cousin, best friend, aunt, neighbor….you catch my drift.  There are so many confident women out there.  But maybe you never felt that you would ever be THAT confident.  Well I’m sure I’m not sharing anything profound when it comes to the truth.  EVERYONE has insecurities, even that popular girl back in school.  I think we can all agree that we’ve seen enough after-school specials that revealed that truth to us long ago.  However, HEARING about it doesn’t mean that we still don’t THINK it can’t be true.

We live in the social media age which means we can’t help but compare ourselves to others.  Most of the time you probably don’t even think that you are.  If you’re one of those that never battles with your self-image due to social media, then good for you…honestly.  You should feel really good about that.  But let’s be real.  There are probably way more of us out there that battle with the opposite.  I could go on and on about this but I’m going to try and stay on topic here. The point of bringing up social media is that it can impact us whether we like it or not.  Everyone has a story and here’s mine. I promise to try and keep it short.

I grew up in a broken home and started comparing myself to others in an unhealthy way early on in my life.  I love my friends and they took such good care of me and making me feel like I belonged in their world. Now, I know that’s not the best way of wording it because of how melodramatic it makes me sound and I hope when they read it they aren’t offended. THEY never made me feel like that, it was all ME feeling that way. This was true in my mind.  You see, I didn’t realize I felt that way until later on after high school.  I was always the shy, backward girl that never felt “pretty enough.”  My friends were beautiful and confident.  I didn’t know how to feel that way so I started working on myself and discovered my creative side when it came to fashion.  I used clothing as my way of being outgoing and a way of expressing my personality.  When you’re young you worry and care about some of the dumbest things, am I right?  Either way I found out a way for me to work on myself and that was through fashion.  I actually had a lot of my friends asking for fashion advice or having me do their hair and make-up while helping them get ready for different events.  This helped me realize two major important things.

1.) Everyone likes to feel good about themselves and clearly don’t always feel that way.

2.) They wanted MY help.  ME! The one with the low self-esteem.  It was during moments like these throughout my life from age 16 and up that I knew what I would love to do with my life. I wanted to help gals build their confidence through their wardrobe.

Okay, so I went a little off-track there but it goes with what I’m trying to teach you.  When I say you can “fake being confident” I’m convinced you can because I’ve done it my whole teenage to adult life.  When I feel good in my clothing, I feel confident. There’s plenty more areas I don’t feel that way but this is one area that helped me grow in my self-discovery of the whole concept of feeling good about myself.  I truly believe that when women feel good in their clothing, it increases their perception of themselves.  Our bodies are forever changing.  EVERYTHING seems to affect it;  stress, age, having babies, losing loved ones, etc.  The list goes on for miles.

I’m not here to say that dressing in clothing that you love on yourself is going to fix everything but I promise you that it won’t hurt to give it a try.  I learned that in order to feel good in your clothing it has to be a reflection of you and your personality.  Sure, you can go shopping with a friend and they can tell you, “Yea! That outfit looks so good on you” but you have to believe it yourself.  You see, I’ve also gone shopping with friends and showed them an outfit and them think it “looked good” too, but a lot of times I disagree because it doesn’t feel like ME.  If something doesn’t feel right on you then you’re not going to feel good in it period.  That’s a fact!

Still not convinced that how you feel in your clothing can help with your self-image?  Let’s think about a time where it’s important to hold your head up high and make a good impression.  It could be for an interview, networking events, meeting the in-laws, or anything along those lines.  I promise if you’re wearing an outfit that looks good on you it will make a difference on how you present yourself.  Once you start learning ways to feel good in your clothing, it will make something you used to dread turn into something you might actually find fun.

I could’ve made this article much longer on my own personal journey through how fashion changed my outlook on myself, but I’m much more interested in your story.  I’d love to be able to help you find yourself through fashion and feel like the best version of yourself.  Let’s chat!  Click on this link and we can start a dialogue on how I can help you with a free style consult.  Can’t wait to hear from you 🙂

Your Faithful Dreamer,

Courtney

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Your Journey to Self-discovery through Fashion

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Yesterday I hosted my first Fashion Workshop at the Hot Tomato Studio. I had such a wonderful time listening to the fashion obstacles people were encountering. There were people from different backgrounds, ages, sizes and styles. But the common theme amongst all of them was a lack of confidence. Most of them felt like they couldn’t take risks or felt like they were in limbo with their style and not sure what to do; you know, feeling too old for Forever 21 but too young for “granny” clothing.

I continue to talk about the psychology of fashion with my students and how we get in our own way when it comes to transitioning into different phases of life; graduating college, starting a new job or lifestyle and then of course either getting older, gaining weight or having children. Life is busy and crazy but it can be so much fun as long as you don’t take it too seriously and want to have a more positive spin on it. When fashion doesn’t come so easy to people it can become this exhausting task and fill your mind with dread or negativity. The thought of getting ready for the day or a special occasion might even make you cringe. When you attend a workshop with me, my goal is to empower you to be brave and take those risks. Tear down those barriers that keep us in this box of how we think we should be dressing. Don’t limit yourself.

After the workshop I was so proud to hear and even see pictures of some of my students that went shopping immediately after the workshop. And get this…they tried things on outside of their comfort zone! Hey girl, hey (High-five)! Now we’re planning a shopping trip with the attendees from this workshop! How fun is that?

I’m here to tell all of you that YOU CAN DO IT! Have patience with yourself and enjoy this process of self-discovery. How do you want to be portrayed in the world through your style? I personally want to show my eclectic view on life by mixing crazy patterns and making it work.

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As always, please feel free to contact me with any fashion obstacles you encounter!

Your Faithful Dreamer,

Courtney

Tropical Winter

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I think we can all agree that the weather has been quite crazy this season in the Mid-Ohio Valley. In the 20’s one day and the 60’s the next. It has inspired me to show you how to wear a summer garment in the winter.

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I love these tropical shorts and the reason these shorts work for the winter is because they are made of a polyester blend fabric; suitable for all seasons. I mixed this velvet bodysuit (which I swore I would never buy one because I wore bodysuits in elementary school. But, the good thing about them? They never untuck! This is why I decided to buy one. Plus it can be a challenge to find appropriate form-fitting shirts).

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I then decided to pair these fuschia, suede, strappy heels to complete this look. I wore fleece-lined tights to keep my legs warm as well. Don’t be afraid to wear open toed shoes in the winter with tights. These are a good example because they are suede.

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I love this look because I tend to wear dark colors in the winter and playing with bold prints  and bright colors can be fun! This was new for me so why don’t you challenge yourself and give it a try 🙂

Your Faithful Dreamer,

Courtney

Capturing the Dreamer

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I’m in my third month of blogging and I can’t believe how many little blessings have occurred.  I’ve made a few leaps of faith and have put myself out there and formed new friendships!

If you live in the Mid-Ohio Valley you’ve probably already heard of the Hot Tomato Pin-up Academy.  If not, now you have and you should look them up!  I’ve had the pleasure of befriending these lovely and kind ladies all through the power of social media and networking.  It’s funny how a simple “friend request” isn’t always taken so literal.  If you really think about it, how many people have you either sent a request to or accepted a request without really wanting to be their real life”friend?”  I used to view it that way until I kept thinking of how powerful and positive facebook could be.  Imagine using facebook for positivity and forming real life friendships rather than venting about negative things and stalking “strangers” profiles! 🙂 Get to know some of your facebook friends by sending a positive note or liking more of their pictures just to simply show that you are enjoying their “friendship.”  I met Andi, Jesse, Jocelyn and Jessica all through facebook.  I had actually met Jocelyn in person on numerous occasions before anyone else and always knew their was something special about her.  Little did I know she was going to be a shining light into this new journey of mine.

Social media and networking are such powerful tools and led me to these new group of empowering women and a group I’ve craved and sought out to have in my life.  The Hot Tomato gals invited me to collaborate with them during a special event they were heading up this past month called Sparkly Ladies Night.  They entrusted me with something very important to them and I can’t begin to describe how incredible that feeling was, and a little stressful but in such a great way! I mean a girl wants to make a good impression, right?  I viewed that as my initiation ha, ha!  I believe this relationship is the beginning of something beautiful.

Ran.dom.o.si.ty 7.4.0 is going to do something exciting this coming new year!  I will be collaborating and assisting Hot Tomato with photo shoots, guest blogging and conducting fashion workshops in their space.  During these fashion workshops women will learn to become stylish while discovering a new version of themselves; self-love and positivity.  Once the workshops have been lined up, I will post the dates and times on the website and will also be creating events on my facebook page.  So, if you haven’t “liked” my facebook page or Hot Tomato’s please make sure you do now.  I’d love for you to be a part of this journey.   Also, if you haven’t subscribed to my website yet, please do so.

Now that I’m going to be a part of the Hot Tomato crew it was only appropriate to experience what it was like to be a client first-hand.  They gave me one of the best experiences while shooting my head shots.  I didn’t know what to expect when it came to their version of head shots because I knew with their style it was bound to be something unique.  I gave them one little request; I wanted them to capture the fact that I was a dreamer. Now, I didn’t even know what that would look like exactly but they nailed it! I told them a little bit about my dreams during the “getting to know you” portion of the shoot. Check out my “head shots” below and make sure to scope out some of their other work because it is absolutely lovely!  A huge hug to all of the Hot Tomato crew ❤  I can’t wait for our collaboration!

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Your Faithful Dreamer,

Courtney