I know, I know some of you have dirty minds and thought I meant something else when I titled this post as “How to Fake It.”  Don’t get me wrong I loved the movie, “When Harry Met Sally” and the scene was quite awkwardly hilarious when Sally proves to Harry that women can fake the big “O”.”  But I’m talking about faking something else.  Something that not all of us have and wish we did.  Some of you might actually be REALLY great at it, or are like me and can “fake it” really well.

I’m talking about confidence.  Yep, that’s right you can fake it.  I fake it all the time.  It wasn’t until my adulthood that I figured out the best technique for myself.  Before I share what it is I feel the need to ask you something.  Did you ever grow up wishing you had the confidence of someone else?  We all had those girls in high school that seemed like they had zero insecurities or maybe it was a celebrity, a sister, cousin, best friend, aunt, neighbor….you catch my drift.  There are so many confident women out there.  But maybe you never felt that you would ever be THAT confident.  Well I’m sure I’m not sharing anything profound when it comes to the truth.  EVERYONE has insecurities, even that popular girl back in school.  I think we can all agree that we’ve seen enough after-school specials that revealed that truth to us long ago.  However, HEARING about it doesn’t mean that we still don’t THINK it can’t be true.

We live in the social media age which means we can’t help but compare ourselves to others.  Most of the time you probably don’t even think that you are.  If you’re one of those that never battles with your self-image due to social media, then good for you…honestly.  You should feel really good about that.  But let’s be real.  There are probably way more of us out there that battle with the opposite.  I could go on and on about this but I’m going to try and stay on topic here. The point of bringing up social media is that it can impact us whether we like it or not.  Everyone has a story and here’s mine. I promise to try and keep it short.

I grew up in a broken home and started comparing myself to others in an unhealthy way early on in my life.  I love my friends and they took such good care of me and making me feel like I belonged in their world. Now, I know that’s not the best way of wording it because of how melodramatic it makes me sound and I hope when they read it they aren’t offended. THEY never made me feel like that, it was all ME feeling that way. This was true in my mind.  You see, I didn’t realize I felt that way until later on after high school.  I was always the shy, backward girl that never felt “pretty enough.”  My friends were beautiful and confident.  I didn’t know how to feel that way so I started working on myself and discovered my creative side when it came to fashion.  I used clothing as my way of being outgoing and a way of expressing my personality.  When you’re young you worry and care about some of the dumbest things, am I right?  Either way I found out a way for me to work on myself and that was through fashion.  I actually had a lot of my friends asking for fashion advice or having me do their hair and make-up while helping them get ready for different events.  This helped me realize two major important things.

1.) Everyone likes to feel good about themselves and clearly don’t always feel that way.

2.) They wanted MY help.  ME! The one with the low self-esteem.  It was during moments like these throughout my life from age 16 and up that I knew what I would love to do with my life. I wanted to help gals build their confidence through their wardrobe.

Okay, so I went a little off-track there but it goes with what I’m trying to teach you.  When I say you can “fake being confident” I’m convinced you can because I’ve done it my whole teenage to adult life.  When I feel good in my clothing, I feel confident. There’s plenty more areas I don’t feel that way but this is one area that helped me grow in my self-discovery of the whole concept of feeling good about myself.  I truly believe that when women feel good in their clothing, it increases their perception of themselves.  Our bodies are forever changing.  EVERYTHING seems to affect it;  stress, age, having babies, losing loved ones, etc.  The list goes on for miles.

I’m not here to say that dressing in clothing that you love on yourself is going to fix everything but I promise you that it won’t hurt to give it a try.  I learned that in order to feel good in your clothing it has to be a reflection of you and your personality.  Sure, you can go shopping with a friend and they can tell you, “Yea! That outfit looks so good on you” but you have to believe it yourself.  You see, I’ve also gone shopping with friends and showed them an outfit and them think it “looked good” too, but a lot of times I disagree because it doesn’t feel like ME.  If something doesn’t feel right on you then you’re not going to feel good in it period.  That’s a fact!

Still not convinced that how you feel in your clothing can help with your self-image?  Let’s think about a time where it’s important to hold your head up high and make a good impression.  It could be for an interview, networking events, meeting the in-laws, or anything along those lines.  I promise if you’re wearing an outfit that looks good on you it will make a difference on how you present yourself.  Once you start learning ways to feel good in your clothing, it will make something you used to dread turn into something you might actually find fun.

I could’ve made this article much longer on my own personal journey through how fashion changed my outlook on myself, but I’m much more interested in your story.  I’d love to be able to help you find yourself through fashion and feel like the best version of yourself.  Let’s chat!  Click on this link and we can start a dialogue on how I can help you with a free style consult.  Can’t wait to hear from you 🙂

Your Faithful Dreamer,

Courtney

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So remember when I introduced you to a new small business yesterday and said they had kid clothing? Well now I’m going to show you two of Harper’s favorite pieces from The Little Blue Boutique. This little lady loves leopard print just as much as I do so I styled us to coordinate 😁. Here I’m wearing my black skirt from the boutique and paired it with a crop top to show you:

1.) You can wear a crop top if done properly when over the age of 30. It’s all on how comfortable you are with it as well as not showing too much skin😘

2.) How easy it is to replicate a two-piece set. I have always loved the matching skirt and crop top trend and this one was easy to do.

The different between Harper and I with clothing is that she is fairly picky with how her clothing fits. She loved soft, comfortable clothing and that’s precisely what this top was. The sleeves have a cute ruffle detail at the cuff and we love how the pocket coordinates. This is a perfect back-to-school top for her because she can wear it for most of the entire school year! It will wear well from fall to spring.

This next piece of Harper’s is her favorite although her facial expression doesn’t show it😂. I made her retake the photos because we ended up not having good lighting in the first set of photos. Harper loves this dress because she is very into dresses still and again it is an incredibly soft fabric with great stretch.

There! That’s a happier face😂 She was cracking me up during this shoot with her little personality and poses. I saved a good one for the very end that she insisted on us doing.

Harper loved showing off this dress because she loves the ruffles and it has a really pretty burgundy trim around the ruffles. We loved it paired with her suede booties for back-to-school.

As promised this was her pose that she felt we really needed to do together🤘 I guess the leopard print brought out her inner rocker chick. Can’t say I don’t blame her 😁 Now remember, you can shop The Little Blue Boutique online or in Marysville, Ohio (just outside Columbus) and get 15% off using promo code: RANDOMOSITY15 ❤️

Happy Shopping ya’ll!

Your Faithful Dreamer,

Courtney

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So as many of you know, I love when I can shop small businesses and when I discover a new one I HAVE to share it with you. My friend, Maggie owns a cute vintage store called Plumm Home in Marysville, Ohio (just outside of Columbus). Well, Maggie introduced me to a neighboring boutique called, The Little Blue Boutique. The owner’s name is Lisa and she offers clothing that is “easy to wear, yet stylish.” Well two of the pieces I now own from this little shop are pictured above. I adore a midi-skirt and love the brown buttons. I couldn’t be happier. The stretchy waistband is just what a mama bear needs!

I love wearing an earth tone with this black skirt because it really brings out the brown buttons. I also paired black and white with it so that my accessories would pop and make a bolder statement. A skirt like this is a must-have in your closet, especially if you have kids because it’s an appropriate length to play in too!

Now you saw this beautiful camouflage top in my first image paired with the black skirt from The Little Blue Boutique. How about pairing it with white denim? I love the contrast it brings to the top. The flounce sleeve is adorable and it really brings a new flare to a typical camouflage top. The racer stripe on the denim really gives it a sportier look too.

And can we talk about how fun this look is? I actually layered the camouflage top over a white dress and tied it on the side to cinch the waist. Believe it or not I actually don’t own a solid white skirt. I thought it would be super cute paired with my favorite white necklace. I brought in a strappy shoe that has all the basic neutrals because it works so well with the colors in camouflage. If you dissect this look it works very well together because of the distribution of color.

If you’re loving this camouflage top and black skirt make sure and either pop into The Little Blue Boutique if you’re near the Columbus area or purchase something online click  here. She also offers little girl clothing too (post coming soon). One important thing to remember is that if you enter promo code: RANDOMOSITY15 you’ll get 15% off your purchase.

Happy Shopping!

Your Faithful Dreamer,

Courtney

*This was a sponsored post with The Little Blue Boutique.

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Think of it as another area of self-care.  Most of you probably visit the salon to get your hair and nails done. Well I can tell you now that spending a few hours with me will build your confidence in shopping and dressing yourself AND most likely you’ll spend less on my services. I realize that not everyone is wanting to necessarily be “trendy” and I don’t try to get you to dress like me or buy a plethora of new clothes.  I actually love showing you different ways to wear what you already own!  Book a FREE style consultation here and let’s start chatting about your style needs.

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Dress from Dad’s Primitive

August is always a very exciting month for me when it comes to fashion. We still have a few warmer months left before fall but we can start buying pieces that are relevant now and can transition into fall easily. I partnered with Dad’s Primitive Workbench to illustrate how simple it can be.

Faux leather Jacket and Dress from Dad’s Primitive

Take for instance this cute midi-dress. I paired a strappy fuschia heel that is complimentary to the olive green. I then layered it with a faux leather jacket to help it easily transform into fall and give an edgier look. Throw on some cute booties or a pointy toe flat and your set for the cooler days.

Dress from Dad’s Primitive

Next up is this fun vertical striped wrap dress. The bell sleeve gives it an extra detail to flaunt and is lightweight to wear in the evenings now and great to wear during the day in the fall.

Kimono and Jeans from Dad’s Primitive

Then POOF! This kimono is actually the wrap dress in the previous picture. I had to pair it with my band tee because it was the perfect match. Want to wear it now to an outdoor concert? Throw on some shorts and you’ve got festival wear!

For this next look I’m going to break it down to show how simple styling can be.

Step 1: Pair midi-skirt with a basic tee.

Step 2: Add a fun heel to jazz it up a bit.

Step 3: Add a fun accessory like this headband.

Step 4: Layer it with a faux leather jacket to really elevate this look.

Skirt and jacket from Dad’s Primitive

Here’s the finished look. The leopard print headband brings in mixing patterns easily and pairs nicely with the gold and black. Accessorizing doesn’t always mean having to use jewelry.

Want to go casual? I wore my favorite black and white sweatshirt with a pair of coordinating sneakers. Want to add an additional accessory? Try adding a hat to mix it up!

Remember, if you shop the boutique at Dad’s Primitive Workbench it’s always buy one get one 1/2 off. If you use my code:RANDOMOSITY740 you’ll get an additional 10% off!

Happy shopping! Also, if you haven’t seen any of my recent posts, I’m offering free style consultations and a chance to win a closet detox with me for the month of August. I’m available both virtually or in-person! Book here now to start the free consultation.

Your Faithful Dreamer,

Courtney

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